Dr. Kristin Schaefer-Schiumo| Manhasset NY

Finding Calm During the Hectic Holidays

With the holiday season right around the corner, we sometimes find ourselves franticly searching for the perfect holiday gift or quickly putting together the finishing touches on our parties. Our seemingly endless family gatherings and obligations sometimes lead to feelings of pressure and stress. Not to mention, the drop in temperature and shorter days can influence our mood and cause us to experience a lack of motivation and overall dreariness. It is important to know yourself and be able to identify when something is feeling out of the norm for you. Here are some tips to combat feelings of stress and depression and to ensure that bright holiday cheer is present well into the New Year.

  • Utilize your supports and don't isolate yourself. Beat loneliness by reaching out to your friends and family. Surround yourself with people who improve your mood.
  • Change your attitude by giving gratitude. The holidays can be viewed as a time when you give recognition to those in your life who are important. When you are doing for others, you won't have time to think about anything else. Performing a selfless act has the transformative power to not only brighten someone else's day but to also return a big smile to your face!
  • Think outside the box. Many times we find ourselves stuck in the same old, perhaps unenjoyable holiday routines, leaving us dissatisfied. Break the cycle of monotony and create new traditions with your family and friends.
  • Remember loved ones that have passed. Find a way to keep honor their memory and celebrate their life.
  • Don't fall out of your routine. If your daily activities consist of exercising and making healthy food choices, don't let the holidays interfere with all of the hard work you've put in throughout the year. They key here is to remain consistent with your routine. Of course, you don't want to deprive yourself of all the amazing holiday treats, just keep everything in moderation. Make time to take care of yourself.
  • Take time to be present throughout your experiences. When you find your mind wandering too far into the future pay attention to those thoughts and bring them back to the present. Try to focus on your breath and what you are doing in the current moment.
  • Don't live outside of your means. Make a budget for yourself before you begin your holiday shopping. This will help you prevent any financial surprises later on.
  • Get in touch with your feelings. Remember that you are a human being who experiences emotions... Don't ignore them! Acknowledge and accept the feelings you are experiencing. Once you are aware of your feelings, you are better equipped to handle them.
  • Don't try to take on everything yourself. It is okay to ask for the help of your family and friends. Delegating tasks will lessen your load of responsibility and ease your level of stress.
  • Stop comparing yourself to others. When we compare ourselves to others, we lose sight of the value our unique experiences, which is an imminent trap for feelings of sadness. All of that time and energy spent focusing on another person could be transformed to focusing on yourself.

If you find yourself struggling with an issue in your life or experiencing unpleasant feelings that you are having difficulty managing, I am here to help!

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